If you're considering getting serious with someone significantly older or younger than yourself, these are important things to discuss.
After spending a few days trying to adjust to the fact that the handsome co-leader of my small group was seven years my junior, I had just realized that he was actually eight years younger!
A question I receive often is, "How did you make the decision to date and marry a younger guy?
The problems we were talking through — for example, what if someday our sex drives didn't match up? We were just going to be more proactive about them.
The bigger question was whether or not God was drawing us together. Travis was also tentative when he first developed feelings for Leah.
I guess it was because I'd heard two or three stories of the woman being seven years older, so I'd sort of decided that was the outer limit of age difference acceptability. (And I would hit 31 a month before his next birthday.) Feeling defeated, I sat at the small wooden table in Starbucks, where I was meeting Kevin for the first time since my startling discovery. In case you're wondering, I married that guy eight months later.
I don't know why this one year made such a difference to me."After we prayed, Travis took up the courage and said those exact words! "That's what I had been waiting for." Although many of the questions I receive are from women who are considering whether or not to date a younger man, many of the same principles apply to the decision-making process regardless of who's older.(For the sake of this article, we'll define an age difference as five years or more.) Here are four things to consider: 1. Leah says one of her biggest concerns when considering a man 10 years younger was whether he had the maturity to understand her needs and take care of her."Things may be good now, but think 10 years down the road," he says. " Wooten's own father was 17 years older than his mother."My dad always loved sports, but he was not physically able to engage with me in sports," he says. If you hit it off because you both love rock climbing, consider if that's something that will be part of your relationship for years to come." 3. Another concern Leah had was whether she could submit to Travis as a spiritual leader.He had graduated from college two months earlier, so we were both in the workforce fulltime.